Spirituality and Being By Giving.

         
         THE SECRET OF GIVING TO GET.

        Once upon a time there was man who was miserable. He was lonely, sad, angry, and felt like the world wasn't doing what was "right" by him. He justified this position by saying that he was getting screwed by the universe and nothing ever went his way and he was unlucky.

        The man proceeded to "share" his misery with everyone he met, anger, loneliness, bitterness, and fear. No one much liked this man and that only added to his feelings of being lost and uncomfortable. The man went on with this miserable existence for years while trying to achieve some momentary ease by being opinionated about others and acquiring numerous possessions.

        One day the man was walking in the forest and grumbling to himself about his anger,frustration, miserable existence and bitterness.

        In the distance he became aware of a light coming towards him along the path in the woods.  As he come closer he could see a very strange sight and he stopped walking. The light was from a woman walking towards him talking to a wolf who was walking with her. He knew she must be very special perhaps a shaman or windtalker. She was surrounded by a soft light and had a small smile etched on her face. She was so serene, calm and at ease. She was everything he wanted to be and he knew she had everything he wanted. As she came even closer he started to feel more anger and bitterness which he aimed at the women and he felt his fear of the wolf.

       Soon they all  faced each other.

      "What the hell are you so happy about he challenged her?"
      No reply.
      "Do you think you're better than me? The mans rage started to peak.
      No reply
      The man couldn't control himself and proceeded to unload a lifetime of anger, shame, frustration,       and greed upon the woman.
      No reply.
      "Why you and not me? What makes you different?"
 
      Finally the man ceased screaming and started sobbing. After a minute he felt a hand upon his shoulder and the wolf leaning against his leg. Then he felt the embrace  against him and she whispered:
   
       "BECOME THE THING YOU SEEK THEN YOU WILL ALWAYS HAVE IT."

The universe and time stopped. The ebb and flow of he man changed direction. Barriers fell.
     
When the world started again the woman and wolf were gone. The mans tears continued but               they had changed to tears of release.

The man spent the rest of his time giving to others the things he wanted to have. By giving he         automatically had what he wanted, the experience had always been there but he had spent so               much time waiting to get he forgot to give.
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        We spend a lot of our time focused on getting our needs met. There are not only a lot of different kinds of needs but as individuals we also make decisions what our needs are and we get to prioritize them.

        I would like to focus on a very specific area of need. Emotional needs and how we can use something that we have available to us everyday to meet these need.
That something would be us, I know it sounds really simple doesn't it?

 HOW IT WORKS FOR ME.

Here are some of the states that I am already sharing with others.

• Example: When we experience Anger we give a lot of anger to the world. We do it when ever things are not the way we want them to be.  

• Example: When we experience Sorrow and Sadness we project it and in fact rarely hold back on sharing our misery and sadness whenever we can. 

• Example: When I feel Loneliness and it's friend gossip I avoid others and feel detached. How many times have we "decided" that someone doesn't meet with our approval? We decide that somehow this person is irritating, confusing, to us they seem fill in the blank, and we don't really want much to do with them. This is the art of sowing loneliness and having opinions. 

        Notice that these are not things that we want to experience ourselves but we share freely of them to others. We like to think that these are all experiences that happen to us from the outside in as though coming at us from the world. We don't like to think that we generate anger, we don't like to believe that we generate greed, and we certainly don't want to believe that we generate sadness. 

        But we do.

        Our default model:

        Let's say you want to feel love.  We have been conditioned to act and behave like we need to find love, acquire love, make sure it's safe, and don't accidentally lose it along the way. Sound familiar? 

        Or we take a different and more familiar tact. We wait. We wait until the universe comes into alignment and love appears. The are a lot of problems with this theory. The biggest one being that we may wait until we die. Love may never appear. 

       So What do we do instead of grasping or waiting?

      IN ORDER TO EXPERIENCE BEING HAPPY ALL I NEED IS TO GIVE HAPPINESS                  AWAY.

       IN ORDER TO FEEL LOVE WE LOVE OTHERS AND IMMEDIATELY HAVE LOVE

      

       IN ORDER TO FEEL CONNECTED WE HAVE TO CONNECT.

     
       IN ORDER TO HAVE FRIENDS WE GIVE OUR FRIENDSHIP.

       IF WE WANT TO HAVE INTELLIGENCE WE GIVE  INTELLIGENCE..

       IF WE WANT COMPASSION WE ARE COMPASSIONATE. 

       IF WE WANT TO BE ENCOURAGED WE CAN GET THAT BY ENCOURAGING.

       Is there really a way to get any of this without the act of doing it?

       I already know that if I want to have anger all I have to do is be angry. Why do we miss how this works in all other areas? Is it because I would rather believe that anger is bad so that I couldn't possibly be the one who generates it?

        And something added for you.

        If you give it away what you will find is your experience of it will grow and the source will continue  to feed you. At times we act like we were given all things in small amounts that if we use it will  will never get it back.We attempt to gain it from others and hoard it. But by the act of giving it   away we posses more than we could ever imagine having. We will have more happiness, love,
encouragement and joy than we ever imagined, just by giving them away.

 
      Healing The Hole in my Heart

      I was waiting
      And it never came.
      Confused and empty I waited wanting.
      Nothing but time melting me quicker
      than I would ever know.
      Until I did.
   
      Pieces fell off.
      Wasting me
      Pretending .
      Until siting one day
      The Mobius self said
      My wanting was a vacuum of my own choosing.
      An endless sinkhole of fear and need.
   
      So I gave away.
      Not back.
      Not to receive in turn
      But away.
      Caring, Kindness, compassion, friendship,
      Smiles, and joy, and time and energy
      And
      THE HOLE STARTED TO MEND.   


WE HAVE MORE TO GIVE THAN WE EVER NEED. 
      
WE RE A CONDUIT FOR ALL THAT MATTERS
      
WHEN THE CONTAINER DISSOLVES
WE SEE
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